Sunday, December 11, 2011

The Power of Women

        I’m not quite sure what some of us women have devolved into, but I do know that it‘s anything but good. It seems that meeting someone, courting them (remember that word…courting) and getting to know them well enough to determine compatibility is a thing of the past. I find that reality to be incredibly sad. Today, it’s all about hook-ups, gettin’ wit’ someone or smashin’. I’m baffled at the ease that most women will give up their bodies to men that are so unworthy of them or that they barely know. Women have either forgotten the scope of their power or they have never realized it.
        The power of women is unimaginable. We have the ability to create the atmosphere in our homes and to create the environment of our neighborhoods, and ultimately, to an extent, we create the atmosphere in our communities and our nation. Our role in this world is incredible, but sadly, we have allowed too many influences such as feminism and liberalism to lead us away from God’s design for relationships and marriage. These influences have left us severely misguided.
        Those most affected by this misguidance are Black women. In 1960, only 28 percent of black females between the ages of 15 and 44 were never married. Today, that number is approaching 70%. In 1940, the illegitimacy rate among blacks was 19 percent; in 1960 it was 22 percent, and today, it's 75% and even higher in some communities. Liberal politicians started to push welfare and entitlement programs on Blacks as early as the 1930’s under President Roosevelt.  Sadly, Rosevelt reverted to the principles of the Progressive Party, which was his party before he belonged to the Republican Party.
         By the late 70’s, the government had all but replaced Black men as the bread winner in many  homes. The government became "daddy" to many Black children while Black women were constantly being counseled against marriage.  If they married, they would lose their welfare benefits. While my focus is on Blacks, the numbers for illegitimacy are pretty scary across cultural lines. Ladies, ALL of us need get it together!
        I believe it’s high time that we recover both our power and dignity… and with the quickness! The good news is that we can recover. It will take tenacity and hard work, and in my opinion, it will take a generation to see substantial and sustainable results, but as my father used to say, “if it ain’t worth workin’ for, it ain’t worth nothin’.”
        If you’re wondering if I blame women for the out of control illegitimacy rate …the answer is yes... at least for the most part. Men have to ask us for sex, but we don’t have to say yes or accept uncommitted relationships. Moreover, why would you want to have sex with someone who has absolutely no interest in marrying you? Furthermore, there is an AWESOME amount of power to be gained from accepting and owning your part of any problem.
        Women, we are the gatekeepers of morality. We lost our power because we gave up our post. Now, it’s up to us to redirect our relationships back to God’s design and live biblically principled lives. This is how we regain our power! The man will follow what the woman dictates, or he'll end up awfully lonely.  It’s up to us to have enough self respect and a sense of knowing how we want our families to be structured to lead the way on this issue. Real men will applaud us for our efforts and more beautifully, real men will marry us because of our efforts! It’s time to kill the supply of easy sex and re-establish a sense of virtue. Only then will we attract men who will love, cherish, and respect us. We are worthy of a men who will honor us through marriage, but only when he is financially able to support a family.
        Ladies, please realize that you are worthy of a happy, functional relationship that culminates in marriage. A woman who knows her worth knows all she needs to know.  Nothing is more powerful than knowing you are worthy of a beautiful life!


  1. V-girl! I had no idea you had a BLOG! LOVED this piece. How can I subscribe to get this in my e-mail?

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